Oh, cleaning and scrubbing will wait till tomorrow,
But children grow up, as I’ve learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down, cobwebs. Dust, go to sleep.
I’m rocking my baby. Babies don’t keep.
I discovered my interest in prenatal and postpartum massage just before the birth of my second child. While on maternity leave, over several months, I added my certification and set up my service menu. During that time, I reflected often on my own experience in pregnancy and postpartum to arrive at just the right offerings.
What did I need?
I needed gentle care through massage therapy. In the newborn period, my body was producing sustenance for my newborn through breastmilk. My endurance was being tested in the form of sleep deprivation. The muscles in my arms, neck, and back were strained because of the holding and love-gazing – the essential bonding I was engaged in with my newborn. All the while, my body was still recovering from the demands of pregnancy and childbirth.
I needed a quiet and peaceful escape. It was new to have a tiny life that depended on me 24/7. It was an adjustment! Taking a moment to rest, to reflect, to be the cared-for instead of the care-giver was a deep need at this time.
When I was a new mom, I loved the poem “Song for a Fifth Child,” I still do. My aunt told me that my grandmother sang it often.
It highlights for me, the last need that I felt during this time. One that was much more difficult to find in a massage therapy setting: I wanted to be with my baby.
It quickly became a non-negotiable for my menu of services. So, baby is welcome in my studio during mom’s massage session. I also waive my mobile fee for mothers in the newborn period (3 months postpartum) so if mom prefers to stay in her home environment she can remain there.
That is not to say that all mothers feel this way – some new moms still very much want their quiet escape to be without baby. Each mother will know what she needs and can choose accordingly.
Postpartum Massage Session
Last month, I had a postpartum client arrive with her new baby girl. Baby girl was fussy. Mom said she had been fussy quite a lot lately. She told me that while it was tough, they were managing. I could see the love in mom’s eyes as she told me this.
We made a safe space for baby on the table, next to mom.
Once the two were settled, I began the session. Dark room, soft music, quiet space. It was just like many of the sessions I have with new mothers. Then, toward the end, mom shared, “Jane, thank you so much. I will remember this forever.”
I could feel her gratitude. It was palpable. I was grateful, too.
Immediately, I was transported back to those early days. The days when it was new. When my body was still healing and my brain was still adjusting to the idea that this new little life was in my care. To the tiredness. To the physical demands on my body. To the simple yet overwhelming need I felt to be with my baby.
For this moment, I created a space for my client to relax into it all during her session.
I created this postpartum service with this client in mind. A gift to mom. A gift to baby.
A gift to me.
Postpartum massage is beneficial for the new mother. Body, mind, and soul are rejuvenated, leaving you at your best. Newborns are welcome at the postpartum session. The mobile fee is waived for postpartum mothers in the newborn period.
photo: my *babies* photo credit: Jeana Marino